This article provides detailed instructions and guide-lines for fully arousing a woman, whether by a man or another woman. First you will learn how to give an erotic full-body acupressure massage. Then you will explore six sets of arousal points for women. The chapter ends by describing an arousal routine using each of these points for stimulating, nurturing, and satisfying a woman.

More than four thousand years ago in ancient China, the Yellow Emperor commissioned his ministers to study the best ways to live a long and healthy life. He was particularly interested in knowing how to cultivate, sustain, and transform sexual energy. His greatest adviser on the secrets of sex was known as the Plain Girl.

The Plain Girl taught the Yellow Emperor that a man's sexual responses are simple compared with the depth and complexity of a woman's. To arouse and satisfy a woman completely, she taught him, it is essential for a man to breathe consciously, slowly, and deeply and to reduce the speed of his movements until they are gradual and graceful. If he can envision each of his caresses unfolding in superslow motion as he breathes slowly and deeply, staying present with her responses, he can fully embrace her sensual delights and give her complete satisfaction.

Full-Body Massage

The following instructions guide both men and women to touch and massage a woman's body in a deeply erotic way. If you, the massager, become aroused during this routine it is essential to slow down your breathing and your hand movements, allowing time for the woman's sexual desire to grow. Your intention to be affectionate, intimate, and fully present with her can create an openness for sexual energy to emerge and flow.

After a while, you both may want to have intercourse. Simply ask her. If words seem unnecessary, go with your intuition. Enjoy each moment, communicating your love through the quality of your touch.

Rather than making love, a secure embrace with contact from head to toe is sometimes all that needs to happen. Holding each other's bodies creates a sacred space that does not have to be filled with anything—not talking, not even an arousing touch. When you feel your bodies fit together, simply hold each other and breathe deeply in sync. Embracing from head to toe connects many acupressure points and increases the healing contact. The stillness of the embrace encourages the life force to flow from point to point throughout your bodies, creating a deep and transcendent experience.

Six Sets of Arousal Points for Women

This section contains six sets of acupressure points, giving you the location and some applications for each point. Any combination of these points can be used to begin an erotic journey. At the end of this section, the Arousal Routine for Women will show you how to use these points in a step-by-step sequence.

Location: In the pelvic area, in the middle of the crease where the leg joins the trunk of the body.

Benefits: Holding these points particularly increases a woman's sexual response and enhances sensations in the genitals.

Applications for Arousal: With your partner lying on her back, kneel between her legs. Gently place the heel of your hands on the groin crease where her thigh joins the trunk of her body. With your fingers lightly on her belly, slowly lean some of the weight of your chest into your partner's groin points, gradually increasing the pressure. Adjust your hands for your comfort, and hold for 2 minutes while breathing deeply.

Grasping the pelvis while holding these points can be incredibly arousing for both intercourse and oral sex. Firmly hold your partner's pelvis, bringing the palms of your hands to the base of her hip bone. Rotate your thumbs until they find the thick, taut, ropy band in the groin, halfway between the hip bone and the tip of the pubic bone. As you grasp hold of the pelvis in this way, passionately pull your partner's body toward you.

Six Sets of Arousal Points for Women

This section contains six sets of acupressure points, giving you the location and some applications for each point. Any combination of these points can be used to begin an erotic journey. At the end of this section, the Arousal Routine for Women will show you how to use these points in a step-by-step sequence.

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